I am a Catholic convert married to a Lutheran who does not practice her faith and doesn’t trust religion as a whole. I don’t feel she is necessarily hostile of religion or Christianity it is just that she was not given good catechesis as a child and not brought up in a home where it was a central part of life. I have been praying and doing my best to serve as a good example of the Christian and Catholic faith while trying to discover what the reasons for her un-belief or apathy towards church and religion is. Lately a short conversation we had revealed that she disdains the commercial aspect of churches competing for souls, always trying to outdo the competition down the street of another denomination or faith altogether. I understand her plight here and agree with her to an extent. I mentioned to her that I didn’t feel that churches should compete but should teach the faith without watering it down. That the faith should stand by itself and not depend on entertainment etc. to keep people in the pews. I said that the Catholic church doesn’t compete with other denoms because it is the original and true church etc. Then in part because I was going to the contemporary service that day, she asked why they have a contemporary service. I had to admit it appears as though the church is trying to stay “cool” by offering the contemporary services. I wanted to tell her that one of the reasons I became Catholic is my agreement with her, because the competition is a human tendency that has no place in the church and that if we were all One as Christ intended this objection wouldn’t exist. Also at one point she said " If someone wants to be a quaker or something whats the big deal, let them decide for themselves. A church shouldn’t be competing like a business to keep people" I believe she is cynical in thinking that some churches want to keep pews full to keep their coffers full as well. I would love to hear some of the forum member’s take on competition between churches and the mind of the Church in using new and different methods to keep Her pews full. Thank you and sorry for the long winded question.