common psychological abuse in families


#1

these is a list of common psychological abuses in families in my country either experienced by myself or found on newspaper (no special order):

  1. repeated threatening of divorce during quarrellings between spouse in front of the child

  2. saying the child better not to be born at all to the child because the child costs them money earning opportunities.
    2.1 saying a elder family member better be dead as supporting him/her cost too much

  3. saying a female family member can’t earn a living even by prostitution

  4. refuse to speak a word to a family member for a specified time. pretty much like the “disfellowship” in JW

  5. “enjoy” comparing a family member with that of another family and letting him/her know how “inferior”/“useless” he/she is.

  6. threatening physical violences something like “mock execution” in interrogation

  7. saying the child is parents personal property and parents can do anything to child.

    the 1st abuse shouldn’t happen to Catholic families. my country is predominantly atheism, and a divorce can be obtained within 5 minutes.
    2nd abuse mostly happen in mammon worshipping families. there’s a “god” of mammon in local folklore and one can actually see some pictures of it being hung on walls in many families.


#2

very true, very much needs saying

another grave abuse, committed by so-called loving parents: making the child an idol who becomes more important than God, surely the most destructive thing you can do to a child. Your kid is special, and no other kid has rights.


#3

Regarding number six…I call that “classroom management”–although I don’t use it at home too much.

Number seven is actually true, what’s the prob???


#4

[quote=Tom of Assisi]Number seven is actually true, what’s the prob???
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you probably should check the ccc out vatican.va/archive/catechism/p3s2c2a6.htm

**2378 **A child is not something *owed *to one, but is a gift. The “supreme gift of marriage” is a human person. A child may not be considered a piece of property, an idea to which an alleged “right to a child” would lead. In this area, only the child possesses genuine rights: the right “to be the fruit of the specific act of the conjugal love of his parents,” and "the right to be respected as a person from the moment of his conception."169


#5

an extreme case of abuse #7 is couples born as many children as possible and “sell” them to infertile couples.

I’m wondering how profit this is. report says a male baby is usually “sold” for $300 female $100. and one usually can only bear one per year. pregnancy takes lots of energy and need the mother to eat much more.


#6

A spanking now and then, isn’t abuse. Threatening a spanking isn’t either.
It’s funny now we have all this pop psych intellectual bull and there are school shootings and other violence amoung children that did not happen 40 or so years ago.
Maybe it’s because children don’t fear their parents anymore?


#7

Number seven is actually true, what’s the prob???

Exactly. Most rational human beings do not sell their children, so that is comparing an apple and an orange.


#8

[quote=Tom of Assisi]Number seven is actually true, what’s the
prob???
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the child is NOT the parents’ property - that is the mentality behind so-called abortion rights. the child is a gift from God and the parents are responsible for the physical and spiritual well-being of that child. When you bring your child to the Church to ask for baptism, you are handing on your faith to that child, and surrendering him back to God, from whence he came to you. That child belongs to God, not to you, you are stewards of that incredible gift.


#9

How about this: Showing R rated horror movies to a four year old child – then telling the child that the nemesis is living his closet, just waiting to cut him up and eat him. :eek:

Honestly, our new son had this done to him. He was afraid that Michael Meyers from Halloween and Chuckie the little demon doll were going to do as previously stated.

I was so happy to be Catholic at that time. I have used Holy Water on the closet doors, the four corners of his bed, etc. Sacramentals, where would we be without them?


#10

I read somewhere that parents once used Son of Sam to scare children who return home late


#11

[quote=abcdefg]an extreme case of abuse #7 is couples born as many children as possible and “sell” them to infertile couples.

I’m wondering how profit this is. report says a male baby is usually “sold” for $300 female $100. and one usually can only bear one per year. pregnancy takes lots of energy and need the mother to eat much more.
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Don’t we buy kids when we adopt them?


#12

[quote=puzzleannie]the child is NOT the parents’ property - that is the mentality behind so-called abortion rights. the child is a gift from God and the parents are responsible for the physical and spiritual well-being of that child. When you bring your child to the Church to ask for baptism, you are handing on your faith to that child, and surrendering him back to God, from whence he came to you. That child belongs to God, not to you, you are stewards of that incredible gift.
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I thought the mentality behind the abortion rights movement was that the child is actually just a “blob of tissue” or as Carl Sagan explained…“a fetus is just like a fish. So there is no problem in aborting it.”


#13

[quote=puzzleannie]the child is NOT the parents’ property -

And the child is NOT the state’s property.

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#14

[quote=Tom of Assisi]Don’t we buy kids when we adopt them?
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In case you don’t know, you’ll be sent to prison if you buy kids.


#15

Read the results of psychological abuse in the biography of this man:

Henry Lee Lucas
carpenoctem.tv/killers/lucas.


#16

This thread is too graphic for our younger readers and is now closed.

God Bless,


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