I need some advice. I am a Catholic convert (fairly recent, two years ago). My mother has become increasingly anti-Catholic starting during my discernment and continuing until today. I was raised in a Protestant Church, but my parents recently fell away from that denomination and started their own non-denominational church.
When I’m home (which isn’t all that often), going to church on Sundays has become a point of contention. I usually go to mass on Saturday, or in the very early morning or evening on Sunday so as not to interfere too much with family time, and also go with my parents as a sign of respect for them. In the former church, I was fortunate that communion was only offered one Sunday of the month and I missed it every time I visited after my confirmation. However, with this new church, communion is offered every week according to each person’s comfort level (i.e., if you’d rather not receive for whatever reason, you don’t have to). Since I’m essentially the pastor’s daughter, it causes a great deal of scandal for me not to at least go in the communion line, both within my family–my mother will send me extremely vitriolic emails/phone calls/messages for weeks afterward and arrange interventions to get me out of my “cult”–and within the church community.
I have no idea what the best way to handle this is. I essentially think of the communion in my parents’ church as nothing in any way sacramental and use it as an opportunity to pray for Christian unity. Obviously I’d rather not receive, but I know how much pain it causes my parents to know that I reject their beliefs and that it can, and has, led them into sin.