Mac, I’m really sorry that you didn’t get a good solid foundation in Catholic teaching. The Catholic religion is not a “harsh set of rules”. The Church proclaims the truth of Christ.
Marriage is a Sacrament. It’s a covenant with God. Therefore, it’s not a revolving door. We are not free to marry and divorce, and remarry. We are not free to go to the courthouse and marry.
Why? Because God instituted marriage, and Christ made it a holy Sacrament. Christ then put the Church in charge of the Sacraments.
Marriage is a witness to Christ and his Church. That is why the Church guards and protects it.
I’m sorry, I was one who was harsh. It is all hopefully correctable if your DH goes to see the priest about a decree of nullity.
Because Baptism is not withheld from children because of their parents sin. Baptism is the door to Salvation. Baptism remits Original Sin. The Church does all she can to help us get to Heaven. If my parents sin could prevent my baptism, that would be a gross misjustice to ME.
They still must deal with their own sin. But, if a parent wants to do right by their children, then the Church tries to help them.
I’m sorry you had your parents marriage outside the Church confusing the issue when it was time for you to be married.
There is nothing to “fix”. Of course the parents who are married outside the Church need to fix their situation, as fast as possible. But, the children are innocent and the Church wants to help them become Christians.
The Church does require marriage in the Church. However, it does not punish the children– who are innocent of the sin of their parents. The children have a right to be baptized. The parents have an obligation to have them baptized. The parents also have an obligation to correct their marriage situation.
See, your parents didn’t do that… leading you to think it was OK. I am sorry that happened to you.
No, it’s not opinion, it’s Church teaching. Your marriage is invalid. But, you and your DH can take steps to correct the situation and come back into the Sacraments. Fifteen years is a long time-- go see the priest immediately. He can counsel you.
He was already married. He was not free to marry. He could have had the first marriage examined but he didn’t. He could have talked to a priest but didn’t. So, yes, a lot of this is on the two of you because you didn’t take any responsibility to find out what was necessary, to adhere to church teaching. But, it can be resolved. Go see your priest.
Yes, they teach falsely on the matter.
You can fix that. Get the Catechism and start reading. God gave us the Church to guide us to Heaven. Don’t walk away from this gift.
You certainly belong. You can correct your situation.
Going to another church who does not teach the Truth just to feel better isn’t going to solve anything.