I was wondering what other people think about the importance of a lot of common interests in relationships. My boyfriend and I have been great friends for a couple of years now, and have been dating for about 10 months. I know he is starting to get more serious about where our relationship is heading, and although neither of us want to rush into anything, we've been at least talking about the possibility of an engagement once we've finished graduate work. He is a wonderful man, which I have seen time and time again since I've known him. :) No hesitations about his faith or his character, which is such a blessing!
My question, which I don't quite know how to ask without sounding shallow: how important is it that you share a lot of the same interests? We have been through college together (where we met) and could share a lot of things there, but at the same time, at a superficial level we don't really have a lot in common. He's a sports guy, I'm a nerd. He's a TV junkie, I'm a bookworm, and so forth. I guess one of my biggest hesitations is a fear that we might come to a point where we have difficulties, if we don't share similarities. (Part of this, I have to admit, comes from the fact that my prior relationships have all been with people who were a lot more like me as far as interests were concerned, whereas my current relationship developed just from a friendship. Which is so much better in a lot of ways! But at the same time, I kind of miss being able to talk about the nuances of the latest book I read and having that enthusiasm reciprocated.)
Am I worrying too much? Or is this something that could pose a problem if we decided to seriously consider taking our relationship further later on down the line?