Okay, where do I start. I am not Catholic yet but am in the process of converting from Anglicanism religious-wise but spiritually moving from atheist/agnostic to Christian. This has been happening for around 3 years and I am very happy to be making the plunge.
I did before getting married have numerous partners and sexual experiences but am very happy now to have been married to a wonderful guy for 2 years now and want to remain married to him for the rest of my life and forsaking all others as marriage was intended while being on the Catholic path. I love my husband VERY much. He is everything to me.
What is the problem? The problem is I get almost no pleasure from sex anymore. I am on an anti-depressant, anti-anxiety and hypertensive medication which will and does decrease libido. Sex is an important part of a loving Christian relationship but I don’t want to have it. I make myself because I believe it is important but now I think my husband is catching on that I do not really want to have it. Once, I get started I am okay but if I never had it again I would be quite fine. Not to mention, in all my relationships I have never orgasmed sexually except by myself which now that I am becoming Catholic is closed off to me.
I may have to be on this medication for the rest of my life. But now that I cannot masturbate, what do I do? Many of the books I read suggest masturbation or other non-sanctioned activities to help with my condition. Should I continue to have sex as my duty? I am so frustrated as I get contradictory answers on what a Catholic can do sexually when they have sexual problems.
My husband is my best friend and I really have sex to make him happy because I know he loves me and wants to have sex with me. But, I fear that I am turning him away. He is not Catholic or religious and has been turning more to pornography than when we first were together and I fear that part of that is because of me.
I have Holy Sex by Popkak and Heaven’s Song by West but they provide little advice for one who has problems sexually. I would love to experience the type of loving sex that they say is part of the gift for a married couple. Should I just forget about it? It’s really causing me a lot of stress. :crying: