This thing with the Holy Father possibly endorsing gay civil unions is really getting to me, because in some ways I feel like I’ve done or am doing the same kind of thing. (I’m making a big leap here, because who knows what the Pope said, and I realize these are two totally different situations and I’m making a lot of assumptions about if our thinking is similar at all.)
I have several liberal friends. I have friends who are gay, friends who are living with their opposite sex boyfriends, a friend with a transgender son. My husband has lost his faith and is an atheist. I’m wondering if I’m complicit in any of these situations, and how to tell if I’m being complicit. While I’ve never endorsed any of these situations, I’ve never said what they’re doing is wrong and they probably don’t know that’s what I think. Except for my husband, I have shared with him that I think he’s way off and that I’m wounded about his loss of faith.
I guess my approach is basically that unless someone asks for my opinion, it’s the job of the Holy Spirit to convict people of their sin, not mine. Admonishing the sinner is a work of mercy, but I really have no clue how to do it and it seems like if you do it wrong, it’s likely to do more harm than good.
So what does it mean to be complicit? What is misplaced compassion? How do I know if I am sinning and what are my responsibilities in these situations?