I have a friend who was raised Catholic but had a rough childhood and only recently has truly embraced her Catholic Faith and come fully to the Church (from a moral standpoint). But I'm beginning to be concerned that she is becoming too scrupulous.
She is a young, beautiful single woman and admittedly is unsure about whether God is calling her to marriage or to the religious life. I believe, she prefers the idea of marriage but is trying to be open to God's call.
In any case, in the past 1-2 months, she's begun attending adoration daily and going to confession twice a week. When she first told me this, in my head all I could think is: goodness, my prayer life is terrible compared to her!
But the more she and I have talked, the more I'm worried about her reasons for going. She doesn't go into depth about her confessions or anything (she shouldn't have to) but I simply have to wonder what compels her to do both of these things so often.
Please don't get me wrong... I understand very well the merits of adoring our Lord and receiving the Sacrament of Confession. I know that the Pope goes to confession daily. But... she's not the Pope. She's a young single woman who, spends more hours per week in church than with friends or family.
Our parish priest finally approached her about a week ago and asked her if she's considered the religious life. She was a little shocked to hear this from him and told him that she's not sure but that her frequent prayer and confessions are what "we're all called to do" and shouldn't mean that she's meant to be a nun.
I wasn't there so I don't know how our priest responded, but I tend to disagree. Not that sometimes going to adoration and confession frequently isn't a good idea... but she seems to think that this is what every Catholic should do. Perhaps this is just my own feelings of guilt at not doing what she is doing but I guess I feel like, I have a life... yes, I go to Adoration weekly (and Mass weekly, of course) and I probably should go to Confession more often than I do, but I have friends and family obligations that simply don't allow me time to spend 8-10 hours/week in Church. If she isn't called to the religious life... she's sure not acting like it.
Anyway, I'm rambling. I'm just truly concerned that rather than using her prayer time before our Lord and attending confession because it's what she needs spiritually, she's somehow convinced herself that it's the right way to be a good Catholic. And I'm also worried that she's hiding from something in the real world. She stresses about having "so much to do" but spends so much time in Church.
I guess I'm just asking... am I out of line for worrying about her? I tried to talk to her about it recently and she became very defensive and I'm regretting even bringing it up... help.