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As I have written before, my son is away at school.
My younger sister called me and asked if I had discussed condoms with him. Because we have discussed the Church’s stance on contraceptives and chastity, I told my sister yes.
To understand the next part of the conversation you have to understand my sister’s personality. SHe really means well and I know that she loves me. But she is very pushy and somewhat of a know-it-all.
She then began to tell me that because Josh was 18 and away from home that he would begin to drink and have sex. I asked her to stop, as I was worried enough about him.:eek:
After acting like I was a bit naive not to think that my son would automatically go wild, she pointed out that both she and I had sex and drank at 18. But neither of us were Christian, and we came from an abusive home life. My son has had a different upbringing then my sister and I had.
I believe that my sister is honestly worried for my son. SHe seems to believe that all kids have to go through a wild period and she wants him to be safe.
My sister has a 14-15 year old daughter whom she has told that she will give her BC when she decides that she is ready for sex.
I don’t really know how to respond to my sister. I would like to say something wise that would make her rethink her position, but I fear that any thing that I say will be thrown back up to me, if any of my children ever make a mistake regarding premarital sex.
I am also worried at the emotional pain that my neice will suffer from believing that sex is just a physical act. I know that the least happiest times of my life was when I was sexually active outside of marriage.
Beyond telling my sister to mind her own business(hubby’s suggestion), which would shut down the lines of communication on this issue, is there something that I can say to her that would cause her to rethink her viewpoint?