I’m 99% sure the council of Trent came to the same conclusion. The order is important. Unfortunately I’ve had a priest tell me otherwise. Glad I took the time to double check.
There’s deafening silence about this issue but up to 1/3rd of pornography users on major sites are women now, so don’t feel like you’re alone. Masturbation without pornography is just as common.
I think any general advice that applies to men would also apply to women, but finding somebody that you can feel relatively safe talking to about it would help; a sister, a friend, a mentor, etc.
Although the Confessional can be used for in-depth spiritual advice if the priest has time, simply confessing the act of impurity is sufficient and then moving on with your life. IMO, I think it’s important not to dramatize your sins, and the Tradition of the Church would agree with that. Don’t act surprised if you do something you shouldn’t have done. Just repent and move on with your life. Guilt is valuable for making a person recognize when they’ve done something wrong, but beyond that, it’s a weapon the devil uses to take a person’s joy away. It certainly isn’t Jesus that wants us to be unhappy.
I have never been instructed to miss communion if we have an unforgiven sin. And not sure that people do that around me (all go to communion).
Of course, it is not an excuse, as we need to formed ourselves.
Yep, the sin of presumption is a real thing. There’s a subtle difference, though, between the knowledge that God always forgives and the thought that “it doesn’t matter if I do this, 'cause God will forgive me anyway.” My take is that it’s always better to confess that the latter might have been my thought process, if I think that maybe it was.
Here’s the thing: God tells us “you made a mistake; you’re forgiven”, but the devil wants us to believe “you’re a bad person; there’s no way you can be forgiven”! Listen to God’s voice, not the devil’s. When you walk out of the confessional, know that you’re a beloved daughter of God, and try your best not to sin.
Well, I got that phrase once from a priest. Not sure where/when/who, but it came from a priest.
Second: if being “intimate with myself” doesn’t refer to masturbation, I don’t know what it could be. How else is it possible to be “intimate with myself,” esp if you say “I was sexually intimate with myself”?
Your #1 is spot on. I fell away from the church for almost two decades. Porn and masturbation were my two biggest vices. When I started praying the rosary regularly I lost the desire to keep doing it. I’m not saying I never messed up, but the rosary is a Godsend (pun or not, I mean it). As for the lady who started this thread, keep trying and you’ll find it easier to resist as time goes on. Don’t beat yourself up over it. We’re all only human.
Here are the instructions
As Catholics, we fully participate in the celebration of the Eucharist when we receive Holy Communion. We are encouraged to receive Communion devoutly and frequently. In order to be properly disposed to receive Communion, participants should not be conscious of grave sin and normally should have fasted for one hour. A person who is conscious of grave sin is not to receive the Body and Blood of the Lord without prior sacramental confession except for a grave reason where there is no opportunity for confession. In this case, the person is to be mindful of the obligation to make an act of perfect contrition, including the intention of confessing as soon as possible (canon 916). A frequent reception of the Sacrament of Penance is encouraged for all.
I myself as a teenage girl used to struggle a bit with masturbation. I have always been embarrassed to say that it was a thing I did.
The key is to be patient. Don´t let yourself be too upset each time you fall, but repent it. The lust and want to commit the sin normally reduces the longer you stay away from it.
The biggest lie the devil draws when you are trying to quit a sin is that you will be free if you don´t bring these limitations of acts to do and not to do upon yourself. This is a grave lie. You need to be set free from this sin and its powers over you.
Jesus is the one you need to ask for help from. Through His grace, you may be set free.
Pray and ask God to lead you and help you to quit this sin, you will be living more freely if you choose to take this battle against sin and the temptations of the devil.
And don´t be discouraged when you fall, but turn to the mercy of our Heavenly Father, he will forgive you!
skip to 7:55 for the first part of what you were talking about.
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