hi, first time posting
I made an appointment for confession once instead of going to Saturday confession.
I was nervous about making a appointment by confession but it was important that I go then. However, there was mix up of where we were to meet. I was thinking the church, confessional. Father wasn’t there, after waiting around awhile, I thought maybe he meant his office, which he did because we met halfway. When we finally met, instead of going to the confessional, we went to the chapel and sat in the chapel chairs. And proceeded.
**QUESTION: How come we went to the chapel instead of the confessional? I found it weird to be confessing my sins outside of the confessional. I know it’s just a room but it has a certain “leave the sins in here and go in peace” type of feel to it.
Because of all the mix-up from my first time, I’m afraid to make another confession by appointment. I was planning to go to regular Saturday confession tomorrow but am getting all stressed out and worried as I timed my confession and it’s 8 minutes. (I practiced. I have it written down so I take less time by being able to read it, instead of getting nervous and stumbling through!) So I did research online which gave me two opinions 1.)“sometimes a penitent has more than a fast-list and that’s okay.” 2)"if penitent has a longer list either be at the end of the line, tell Fr how many ppl are left, or call to make an appointment.
And I’m getting stressed if I go tomorrow if it will be the patient priest or not. (we have two, they take turns.) I know what matters is confessing, not the priest you have, but it does make it go easier when it’s the patient priest. So I just hope.
I’ve been putting off going to confession for a few months and since all this stress is happening the night before, it might be the devil trying to get me to delay so I think maybe I should just go to regular like planned.
**QUESTION: Is 8 minutes too long–I should make an appointment? Or go to regular Saturday?