I am in the process of rejoining the church. I was away for about 30 years. In the course of being away, I got married, had 2 children. Now that I am in the process of rejoining the church I am getting my marriage blessed, getting my children baptized and confirmed, and taking all of the classes that our priest recommended. This has all been a great experience and my family has grown stronger through the process.
The part that I am unsure of is my first confession. As I mentioned, I was away from the church from quite a while. During this time, I had relations before I was married. Since I was married, I only had relations with my wife, but I have objectified women by lusting over them on many occasions. Went to a number of Gentlemens clubs as well. Now that I am in the process of rejoining the church all of that is behind me. I am concerned that when I confess that the priest will make me come clean and make me tell all of this to my wife as part of my penance. If that is the case, surely she will leave me. Currently, my plan is to confess at the first chance I get, but I am concerned. Has anyone gone through a similar scenario?