I’ve always found it VERY hard to actually confess most of my mortal sins in a voice loud and clear enough so that the priest can understand me…It’s not because of a physical disability though; it’s just SO HARD for me to force the words from my mouth. Because of this I used to never go to confession even though I really needed to, but then when I was seventeen, I thought of writing down sin lists and handing them to the priests. Because most priests except this, I thought it was just a personal preference of some priests to not except it, but now I’ve just read in the CCC that a penitent is supposed to “confess with the lips.” Of course there are some people who literally can’t do that and are excempt, but am I? When and if forced to read my lists, the priest can’t understand me anyway so what’s the point? I guess maybe I should confess my sins out loud because the CCC says I should and then hand the priest the list so he’ll actually know what I said?
Also, what about the times I simply handed my lists to the priests and they granted me absolution? Are they considered invalid?