Is it acceptable and/or customary for the parish priest not to have regular confession times, rather it be by ‘appointment only’? Additionally, am I correct that we have the right to anonymity during our confession?
Our parish only does confessions by *appointment only *and, I thought all parishes were to have a some sort of ‘screen’; even if it be a sheet on a line if the church has no confessional.
Our priest only does confessions face-to-face in his office, and communal penance 2 times a year, which is done in the adjoining hallway – in full view of the congregation.
Although I know Father has heard it all and he probably would know who is confessing anyway even with a screen, I still feel uneasy about the face-to-face confession. He’s kind of a crabby, unapproachable, not very personable guy to begin with. He makes people very uneasy as it is and not feel open to discussing day-to-day things; let alone our most private matters. This is so very difficult for someone like myself that is terribly nervous confessing as it is.
Plus making an appointment for a basic confession just doesn’t feel right to me for some reason. I’m not sure whether it’s because I feel like I’m bothering Father if it isn’t any thing of real major mortal sin. But, just like everyone else, I do sin and don’t want to receive communion unworthily.
We live a very rural area where the next nearest Catholic Church is 2 hrs. drive one-way; so going to another priest is not an option due to disabilities.
Also, if this is not right, what steps would we take to resolve it without causing a big uproar or offending Father? I’m a new Catholic and don’t want to make waves.