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Hello to all!
I am due for my First Confession soon. I'm both excited and nervous at the same time!
I was baptized 16 years ago, so I'm sure you can imagine that there's quite a lot of sin in my past. I know that you're supposed to say the type of sin and the number of times that you've committed it - but what about if you have never had the mind to keep track of the number of times you committed a certain sin?
Also, how specific must we be with our sins? For example, is there a need to differentiate between confessing sexual intercourse with a member of the opposite sex and sexual acts with a member of the same sex?
Yes one does...
Sorry if some of this is too much information - just thought I'd ask! Thank you so much for your time!
One is obliged to confess all mortal sins in number and kind (and circumstance that changes the kind -- like it was your brother you murdered! or the gold cup you stole was from the Church (hence sacrilege))
Venial sins are recommended to be confessed. They can also be forgiven in many other ways.
(Now I will note that those out there who are scrupulous ....they need to a regular confessor and not scruple about confession...)
Of course after a good examination we may not ..after so many years...remember everything..that is ok...we do what we can..God forgives the forgotten ones too (we need of course to be sorry for all our mortal sins...and amended)...then if we later remember one we forgot..we are to confess it in the next confession after we remember it. (this is different from if we intentionally hide a mortal sin..that is a sacrilege and one is not forgiven but has another sin)
If something is doubtful one notes it is doubtful in some way. While one is not strictly obliged to confess doubtful mortal sins -- it is normally recommended to (though those with scruples may be recommended not to).
Also we may not know the numbers ...we do what can ....and if we do not know..we make an approximation according to our knowledge from our examinination ...3-5x, 5-10 a month for the last 20 years, somewhere around 50 times, around 10x, or it was several times definately more than 10 ....it may be that one has to say: "a few times", "several times" "many times" "many many times" etc
Of course one needs contrition and a firm purpose of amendment.
Here from the Catechism:
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I too came into full communion with the Catholic Church ....I love confession ...tis a wonderful gift.
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