I think as well, that it depends on the priest that you go to. My regular confessor will usually speak to me about my spiritual short coming, but I have been going to him for a long time, and I am confortable enough with him now that when I go to confession it is very “relaxed” to say the least.
He remindes me that God is present to forgive, and when I am finished confessing (or during confession) he may say something about what I have confessed and give me instruction on how to avoid this sin in the future, and then he gives me absolution.
However, I have been to priests that do not want to go into detail, nor do they give any “pointers” basically, they want the “grocery list” and then they will give you absolution…once again I am with the majority on this one…It simply depends on which priest you go to! I would recommend going to a “regular” confessor, and developing a confessor/penitant relationship with him…this tends to make ones confession much more fruitful!
God bless you and Mary keep you,