Thank you for taking the time to read my question, I am a fairly new convert to Catholicism and appreciate any help!
My question is in regards to confession. Because I am a recent convert, I unfortunately have years and years of sin to confess. Also because I was not brought up with religion and was raised with divorced parents who were angry with one another and showed me the exact opposite of how a person should be. I sinned without thinking twice, and now and very regretful of many things in my past.
from what I understand a Mortal sin has to have three qualities in order to be considered a Mortal sin-
The object of the sin is grave matter (it violates the 10 commandments)
The sin is committed with full knowledge (one knows the act violates God’s law)
The sin is committed with complete and deliberate consent—it is a choice.
Now I believe it is right for me to confess all of my sins regardless of whether at the time of committing them I knew I was sinning against God. I truly do fear the loss of heaven and think I should confess everything. I have a great burden of guilt and shame on my shoulders that I need to rid myself of. A friend and I who are both converts to the faith were discussing confession and how afraid I am to go and she was trying to convince me that I need not confess anything from before because I did not knowthen what I do now regarding our faith and sins. So in a general sense if someone committed a mortal sin or any sin and didn’t confess whether out of embarrassment or fear of excommunication, because they were not brought up in the church and didn’t consider it a sin at the time-what would that mean for them? Would their whole confession be invalid for deliberately leaving something out or would it not be held against them because at the time they did not know?
Thank you for taking the time to read and answer my question…