I’m sorry if this thread is repetitive, but I’m having a tough time of it right now. I have not been to confession since I probably made my confirmation (I’m 44 so that should tell you how long it’s been). My DH and I have recently “returned” to the church after going off and on for quite some time. We are looking to have our marriage convalidated sometime this year and I know that we will definitely need to go to confession before this happens.
I personally have a few things that I need to confess that I am very embarrassed and ashamed of, which is why I have been holding back from going. I have settled in nicely with our new parish, made lots of friends and developed a great relationship with our pastor. I guess what I’m trying to get around to saying is that I cannot bring myself to go to confession with our pastor. I know that most priests have heard it all and that’s not really what makes me nervous. I’m more bothered by the fact that he may see me differently after I make that confession. I don’t wish him to think badly of me. We also have a parochial vicar at our church, but I don’t know that I could go to him as well.
Would it just be easier for me to find a random church and go there for confession? I do not wish to bring up the convalidation with our pastor until I have gone to confession. Sorry if this is all very silly, but it’s definitely stressing me out.