I was hoping to avoid this topic altogether, but it was brought up last night during my RCIA class, with the catechists saying they were going to talk to the priest about confirmation names.
I have a thing about names. I don’t really want to get into it, but the long and short is that I’ve had my name taken from me, been forcibly re-named, and I’ve only recently got my name back. This has resulted in me being extremely touchy about names (well, mine). I do not want a new name in any shape or form. I never want to be called by a name that isn’t mine ever again, not even just once, and I certainly don’t want a name that isn’t mine written down anywhere as (part of) my name.
I have no problems picking a patron saint or someone from the Bible that I admire and will strive to live like, but I definitely don’t want it said or written ever as my/as part of my name.
If he decides confirmation names are a great idea, can I talk to him about how much I really really really really do not at all want that? Does anyone have any advice? Has anyone ever declined to choose a confirmation name?