I am an only child. My parents brought me up in a very loving environment. I am now 30 years old, happily married and we have 2 beautiful sons (both 2 years old…the oldest one will turn 3 in a couple of days).
It all seems so great, however, my father, lately, has been acting very conflicting. My husband always treats him with great respect, however, my father does not like him because he (my father) feels inferior.
Let me tell you a little bit about my father.
My father used to be a heavy drinker. Not the type to become aggressive when he was drunk, but he did spend alot of his time drinking with his friends. Neither, has he been a womaniser.
In 1989, he decided that he would quit drinking, of course, my mother and I thought that it was just not going to happen since he was so deep into drinking. Well, it did happen, he stopped drinking the next day and its been 17 years now. Anyhow, in 1999 he had a heart attack and went through open heart surgery.
Ever since then, its been downhill with his personality and character. He seems not to like my husband very much (atleast that is the conclusion that I draw based on his comments to my mother) because he thinks that my husband does not like him because my husband never accepts help from him when doing labor (i.e., mowing the lawn, cutting wood, etc…).
Today, he wanted to mow our lawn and I told him that my husband and I had talked about it and it was best to hire someone because his condition does not allow him to do strenous jobs. He became offended and cused at me over the phone and hung up. I feel that he is losing it. He acts like a person who is going looney. I called him 3 times already within the last hour and he does not answer (well, he answered once and hung up again). He says that when he dies that we are going to be hurt because we have hurt him and that we are going to regret the way that we treat him (which is all good with respect). My husband respects him, too much. It hurts me that my father is acting this way. I have alot of respect for my father. I love him, however, I can’t take it if he ever tries to offend my husband.
I don’t know what to do. All I can think of is to ignore him. I don’t know if any of you have gone through something similar.
Can anyone advice or suggest something?