I have been married almost 5 years, have 2 children I adore and until recently absolutely no problems with my wife.
I am an attorney with a large firm, getting somewhat burned out by the hours. My wife, however, has been haranguing me about the hours I work. One day, trying to complete a transaction before Christmas I came home after midnight. I tried to stay quiet, but it turned out she was awake. Her first words to me were “You know, it would be helpful if you can get home at around 6 and help me get the kids to bed.”
As I said, I have been getting burned out and she is on my case about my work hours. She has been pushing me to get a job with fewer hours. Then, out of the blue, a government agency I do a lot of work with offered me a job. Less money (but still very good money), the chance to be home at 6 p.m. every night, and no longer having to explain to my 2 year old son why on Saturday I was going to the office instead of taking him to the zoo. The only draw back is that it would require us to move back to Washington. But that did not seem to be much of a draw back as (i) my wife lived in DC until we got married and (ii) we really have few ties to Chicago (I came here for the job).
My wife then began complaining that the money was not enough and she did not want to move. She wants me to find a job with the same money but she wants me home at night at 6 p.m. (I have had dinner at home during the week maybe twice this month). (Needless to say, I just turned down the job about 2 minutes ago).
I on the other hand am willing to take a cut in pay and our life style if it means more time with her and the kids. (As an aside, my parents recently passed away, and while they were not rich, it has given us enough along to not worry about money – though we did not worry about it before).
Any ideas? For the first time I got into a yelling argument with my wife (which to be fair to her consisted mostly of me yelling and she asking me not to yell at her).