I am a baptized Christian attending RCIA with my unbaptized husband. We have been in it now for about five months. We really enjoy it. Our only issue has been that we have two small children that make it difficult to attend our classes because we don’t always have the convenience of a babysitter. We were taking a class at 7pm and the teacher was kind enough to allow us an hour instead of the usual hour and half. Most of the time we would take our kids with us because we were the only two in the class. And since it was an hour it was easier taking the kids with us than driving 30 minutes roundtrip to my parents…which made the night even longer by the time we got home.
Before Lent began things changed and the priest in charge of RCIA wants us to be at the church at 9:30am for class, attend Mass at 11am and then meet again for another 30 minutes directly after Mass. This is extremely long for our children, who are two and four. It’s a challenge just to ge them to sit through Mass.
I tried to let the priest know, politely, that we were concerned about having our kids be at the church for so long. I also asked if we could work something out to go back to our evening lessons and his response was that we try to get a babysitter on Sunday. I wasn’t upset by his comment, but it was discouraging. It did leave me feeling guilty that I even had to tell him it was a problem for us. But at this time in our lives, with little kids, it is an issue. If they were 10 and 12 they could read a book in the back of the class, but they are two and four and asking them to sit quietly for three hours is impossible.
I have since put in an email and a phone call to this priest so I can meet with him personally to discuss this, as well as other things. It has been a week and he has yet to respond. I know our priests are very busy men, but I’m starting to feel like he just doesn’t want to deal with us.
We are very excited about becoming Catholic and don’t want to let scheduling prevent us from continuing.
Should I be feeling guilty for letting the priest know the new schedule isn’t going to work for us because of our kids?
I suggested to my husband that maybe he quit RCIA so I can continue and he can start again later. He said no way.
Before I forget the new 9:30am class time is with a bunch of little kids . I think because we are the only two adults they are just trying to put us with another group for their convenience. And is it even appropriate to have two 35 year olds with 10 year olds???