for understanding, I’ll try and ask more questions than make comments. Above all, I hope everything works out well for you.
What got you interested in Catholicism again? As you said, for 17 years you gave it no thought.
As Peter wrote
2 Pet 1:
5 For this very reason make every effort to supplement your faith with virtue, and virtue withknowledge, 6 and knowledge withself-control, and self-control with steadfastness, and steadfastness with godliness, 7 and godliness with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love. 8 For if these things are yours and abound, they keep you from being ineffective or unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. 9 For whoever lacks these things is blind and shortsighted and has forgotten that he was cleansed from his old sins. 10 Therefore, brethren, be the more zealous to confirm your call and election, for if you do this you will never fall; 11 so there will be richly provided for you an entrance into the eternal kingdom of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. 12
Protestants have ALWAYS believed in sola fide and sola scriptura. Why is this central dogma of Protestantism just getting your attention NOW?
Did any of this come up between you two before you decided to marry?
You mentioned Scott Hahn in your post. He said many times in tapes, when he was a student, he loved to ask tough questions of his professors.
As you know, the origin of Protestantism was to divide from the Church of Rome. Here’s a question you might ask one of your Protestant pastors you mention above…
Ask them how they would interpret Paul’s instruction to the Church of Rome, and how Protestants see themselves in this warning?
17I urge you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause divisions and put obstacles in your way that are contrary to the teaching you have learned. Keep away from them. 18For such people are not serving our Lord Christ, but their own appetites. By smooth talk and flattery they deceive the minds of naive people. 19Everyone has heard about your obedience, so I am full of joy over you; but I want you to be wise about what is good, and innocent about what is evil.
and the consequences of division for the individual
19The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; 20idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions 21and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.
As you might know already, There is only ONE place in all of scripture where you find “faith alone” written
24 You see that a man is justified by works and not by faith alone.