So I’m a devout Catholic and I very much trust the Church’s teachings. I want to understand them better, though, so I have a few questions! Some of the following gets a little strange, so bear with me…
The Church teaches that certain sexual acts are perverse and immoral because they aren’t what God intended, or they are contrary to what He intended. On one level this makes a lot of sense to me. But recently I’ve been thinking about it more, and there’s some things that are puzzling me. Firstly, take head hair. Presumably, God created the hair on our scalp for a reason. After all, if our sexual organs were created for a purpose, wouldn’t it be fair to say that all the natural parts of our body were created for a purpose? And yet, the Church doesn’t say it is wrong for people to shave off all the hair on their scalp. How come? Doesn’t shaving off your head hair go against God’s plan for your head hair?
Secondly, take the skin covering the different parts of the human body. Now, is it sinful to get a massage? No, it is not. It isn’t sinful to get pleasure from the stimulation of the skin covering the various parts of your body (back, shoulders, etc). And yet, it is sinful for the sexual organs, or the skin covering the sexual organs, to be massaged or stimulated for pleasure. Why is this? Why does stimulating the sexual organs go against God’s plan any more than stimulating the back does?
Finally, I am a little confused about the Church’s teaching on birth control. What doesn’t make sense to me is the fact that on the one hand the Church says each and every marital act must be open to life, whilst at the same time it is perfectly fine for a Catholic couple to engage in the marital act when the woman isn’t fertile. I can see why artificial contraception is immoral. I just don’t see how it’s consistent to say that natural contraception is acceptable. When a couple know or are pretty sure that the woman is infertile at the time, but engage in the marital act nonetheless, isn’t their sexual union in that instance solely about love and pleasure? In fact, doesn’t their specific desire to have sex whilst avoiding pregnancy at that particular time mean their sexual union is intentionally avoiding the creation of new life? How is that okay?
So there we go! I would really appreciate any and all help with these questions, and thank you in advance!