A recent occurrence within my family has made me start to wonder about divorce amongst non-Catholics…
I’m confused about how the Church views divorced non-Catholics. Because they are not Catholic, they would not be getting an annulment. So what I’m not understanding is if divorced non-Catholics remarry, are they committing adultery? Because in essence, Catholics can divorce and remarry, and not be committing adultery so long as their first marriage was annulled. But for non-Catholics they don’t have the option of annulment.
Here’s what got me wondering. My sister married her husband 3 years ago at the age of 21. Now they are more than likely divorcing. They are not Catholic, no one in my family but me is. In fact, her husband isn’t really even Christian. He was not baptized before they married, he only got baptized about a year ago in their Lutheran faith, but has not ever been confirmed to one faith. They’ve had a number of issues in their marriage, such as he lies about things (has since the beginning but she wouldn’t recognize it) and he views porn. She is rather pushy and can be self-centered, so they both have issues, and it all hasn’t been worked so they feel as though they can’t fix it. My parents and I even had doubts about the whole marriage before it even began but she didn’t see the issues…
So now I’m in the dilemma of that I’m not sure how to view the situation. Of course I’m sad for her. I don’t believe divorce should be the option, but I do understand that not everyone picks the right person to marry (and I feel as though this is the case with them). So of course I wouldn’t want her to stay in the marriage unhappy for the rest of her life. And it really isn’t my place to judge, that’s for God to do on Judgment Day.
So I guess I’m just really wondering that if she were to remarry, would that be considered adultery?
Is there anything I need to say to her about the situation so that I’m not allowing her to sin without voicing something about it?
I hope this post made sense, I’m just confused about the whole situation of divorce.