I know what the church says about sex, that fornication is a sin because it is not procreative and unitive whereas sex between husband and wife is. That is what God intended sex for.
Someone recently asked me several questions about it, and I didnt know and am confused myself. Please help me answer these:
If nothing bad comes from God then why is sex, something pleasurable, so bad?
Fornication is part of the 6th and 9th commandment right, from God given to Moses, but how do we know that Moses didn’t just create it or BS it (as how this person who asked me phrased it) because sex makes people happy so why would God take that from people?
Yes, it’s in the bible but the bible was written by people not God so how do we know God is really saying this? How can God be so mean to keep something like that from people (my response was the unitive/procreative answer and that God wants us to wait, is there a better answer?)
Not having sex before marriage seems so dogmatic and old-fashioned, no one does that anymore, and a lot of marriages between those whom have fornicated are successful that chastity is not needed today. (I told him that divorce rate is lower in those who waited/practiced chastity after doing research).
If you don’t have sex before marriage then how do you know if you’re compatible in it when you are married? Some people divorce when they are not compatible in the bedroom (size, motion, likes/dislikes, etc…)
This was a non-Catholic guy who tried to get me to change my beliefs on chastity and upon discussing this, I felt like my faith was being pulled down. If you can help me by giving me answers to understand more on this topic, I’d appreciate it. Thank you.