A little about me, im a college sophomore.
In my English coarce, a group went up to present their individual power points. After the group finished, they turned their desks so as to face the rest of the class and got prepared to answer any questions we (the rest of the class) may have.
One of the group members (we’ll call him Ron) offended a Shia Muslim student by saying that in the Shia religion, they inflect pain upon themselves. The student raised her hand and told him that it was based on the culture not the religion itself and he shouldn’t have said such a thing. She was clearly offended. He did apologize for it though.
Then some guy started speaking about useless stuff and that conversation led to Ron stating that although he has a Cross tattoo on his hand, he is really an atheist. When he said this, i remembered that on the first day of class he said that his career/future goal was to become a islamic/catholic psychologist, putting his personal beleifs aside to council them in their religion’s spirituality.
This bothered me a little and i couldn’t help but say something. I raised my hand, apologized to the teacher saying that this question wouldnt relate to the presentation. (She didn’t care) So I said, “I know ur goal is to council in spirituality catholics and muslims, but i dont understand why a person would go to u for spiritual coinciding when u have no faith in God. Wouldnt it be wiser for a catholic to go seek a Priest, or a muslim to seek an Imam who share and practice their faith for spiritual counciling?”
Ron replied that Priests dont have psychology degrees and i told him that priests could have any sort of degree, like medicine and even psychology. Besides there are many catholic spiritual councilors that can help those that seek such service.
The teacher, trying to make it seem like Ron and I are on even playing fields said " Im trying to think of something that u wouldnt see a priest for and would rather seek a sevice like Ron’s…hmmm… Oh, well, say an child is going through puberty and is having body changes, they wouldn’t want to go to a Priest because then the Priest would be like, ur a sinner, and this and that is bad…"
I responded to that with “A Priest is a man that shares in the priesthood of Christ. He shouldn’t tell a child such things right off the bat and degrade them. He should act with kindness and understanding. Jesus didnt let anyone stone that woman although she was a grave sinner, He instead looked at her with love and compassion, and that response should be reflected by a priest.”
Students started giggling and smiling because it was just an awkward silence since he couldn’t answer my question. The teacher then asked a question to a different student in that group and class went on.
After a while Ron stated that catholicism recently permitted masturbation and suicide and i opened up my mouth again (cause i clearly dont know when to stop talking) and said that that isn’t completely true because such things are only permitted under certain circumstances.
Overall, Im feeling guilty because not only did i in a way shatter his career plans but i did so in front of the entire class. I fealt especially bad when the students started giggling under his lack of response and i think i should have just stopped talking when the teacher made up that example. Ron was already a but humiliated by the Shia Muslim and now i had humiliated him even more. I feel so guilty. I hope he doesnt hate catholicism or anything because if me.
Should I be feeling guilty?? I said these things in the nicest and calmest ways i could but i dont know why I was so compelled to say anything in the first place.
What can i do this Friday to make it up to him? Should i apologize then pertend to understand his vision. Should I get more involved and actually see if his vision makes sense in some way?
I’m so lost. I wish i never said anything in the first place. I pray that i haven’t offended him.
Sorry for the length of this post.
Please respond before Friday morning because i will see him again by that time.