I soooo know what you are going through! I am in a similiar boat, but my problem is that I didn’t get what I thought was an automatic raise last year.
I enrolled my dd in private HS because of that raise and when my anniversary came up the boss(CEO) broke it to me that my raise was contingent upon our president making a certain project profitable. Well, he hasn’t… and I didn’t get my raise last year. Now we are coming up on my anniversary again and he still hasn’t broken into the US market… our overseas seems to be doing well, but he was brought to the US to get the US market going, which seems to be all wrapped up in government contracts and such, so no progress.
On the up side, I came clean with the boss about my daughters tuition and he helped out with it. Now, I am facing a tuition hike on next years tuition… So yesterday I had a talk with him again. He hasn’t given me an answer yet, but he asked me to email his wife to remind him to talk to her about it.
So, whether I get my raise or not, I am hoping that he will at least set up a scholarship for her. This is why I can’t leave… Catholic boss… understands want/need to go to mass or appointments to talk to pastor, Holy Days we all go to mass together. On the upside… the money for dd’s tuition is not a part of my pay, he donates it out of a trust…so I am not taxed on it. On the downside, I HATE asking for money!!! I would rather be in control of my own finances. This year so far, I have had quite a year for medical… broke my leg in March on company property so he covered it all, then in May I had a miscarriage and I am just now getting all the bills…so far we are up to $9500. On top of that, my dog is currently in the vet hospital and my son had ankle surgery in April and a concussion in May…more $$$$$$ that I don’t have!
I can’t really quit this job at the moment because of all this and he financed a car for us (payroll deduction over 1 year) and I have a company car too. If I were to quit I would have to return 1 car and pay the other one off within a month, which I can’t do. Not to mention the time off to attend Catholic events either at dd’s school or in the diocese.
So I have another solution… I plan to get a second job part-time and work evenings or weekends at that job. This way depending on where I work, if I do retail, i can get a discount at that store… I am thinking Lowes, Home Depot, or one of them so I can get cheap home improvement supplies too. My boss has a habit of calling me anytime day or night or on Holidays for things, he won’t like it too much that I can’t talk to him while I work another job. If he wants me all to himself, he will find a way to give me the raise. He has been known to do this in the past…
I can’t complain too much… the boss is a very generous man with everything except pay. He really is! I have access to fresh eggs from their farm, free stays at their guest house when my AC broke, interest free loans for vehicles, best prices on vehicles (we send one of our workers to auto auctions), his wife cooked and brought us food when I broke my leg and when I had the miscarriage, discounts on local hotel rooms, etc… The only thing is… sometimes you just need ca$h… know what I mean???