I’ve been dating a Baptist for about 11 months now, which put us at the position of having to decide if we get married or go our separate ways. This is obviously a decision we need to make together, so I thought it would be helpful if I could come to our discussion with a list of the responsibilities I, as a Catholic, would bring to the marriage.
I’ve looked through the Catechism and followed its links to Canon Law, but I’m worried I’ll miss something without a nice list.
I’ve taken note of the need for approval by the bishop for a marriage to take place in such a situation, and since she doesn’t want to be married in a Catholic church, that we’d need special permission for that.
In addition, I’ve made it clear that I have a responsibility to raise the children Catholic and all that entails: infant Baptism, First Eucharist, regular Confession and Confirmation. (All of which she does not believe in. I also pointed out that I cannot endorse or condone a “re-Baptism” in her Church when the kids get older.) I’ve also told her that I wouldn’t feel comfortable raising kids as both Catholic and Baptist. In addition, I’ve told her that once the kids were old enough to be obliged to attend Mass, it would fall to her to make sure they did if I were away on a Sunday or Holy Day. And that the children would be encouraged to be altar servers, consider a religious vocation and referably attend Catholic schools.
I’ve pointed out too that it will be my responsibility to explain and make sure they agree with Catholic doctrine that she doesn’t believe: prayer to the Saints, all the Mary stuff, infaliibility of the Church and the Pope, etc.
I’ve made sure to note the prohibition of contraception, and the whole contraceptive mentality even if done through natural means.
Are there other issues I need to consider that I’m overlooking? I’m aware of the trouble that I’m asking for in an inter-faith marriage (I’ve searched the archives here already and seen the warnings), so I’m just looking for issues we need to discuss and make a mutual decision on before deciding to get engaged. (I don’t want to get engaged, just to call things off. I’d rather make all our decisions now.)
Thanks for any help you can provide.