Me: baptized in the Catholic church, and have received my sacraments up through confirmation as a child.
DH: Baptized in the Church as an infant, his family left the church before he could receive Eucharist or be Confirmed.
We were wed in a civil ceremony in 2011 after several deaths in the family prompted us to postpone our big fat catholic wedding. When I started planning again, I found myself having panic attacks and we decided to elope (a rent-a-minister married us) on an island.
We have moved since our wedding and started attending a new parish.
DH has expressed interest in completing his sacraments and becoming a "real" Catholic (his words) this year, and I have been eager to returning to the church after a prolonged absence after the death of my father (see postponing my wedding above).
Will we have to have a convalidation ceremony before his first Eucharist IF we go to confession and then abstain from further marital relations? This may sound selfish but I would love to have the wedding day that we had dreamed of, but I need to lose weight before I cram myself into a white dress.
I am willing to abstain (and so is he), maintain separate bedrooms in our home, and live chastely if it means that we will be able to receive the Eucharist together at our wedding Mass.
We are meeting with the Faith Formation director and priest next week. I'd just like to hear from others who may know if this is even possible before I get my hopes up.