I hope I am posting this in the right area. I am very grateful to have found a website such as this one where I can ask questions. I have a big one.
My husband and I were engaged in April 2009 with plans to marry in May 2010. We found out we were pregnant in July 2009 and eloped to have a JOP wedding. Our beautiful son is now 1 year old. I want to raise him Catholic.
Anyway, on the website of the Church for the baptism, it says *If parents are not married, or married only civilly, they should speak to the Deacon or one of
the parish priests to see whether their marriage can be convalidated, permitting them to receive the sacraments. We are happy to help with this; no need for a big wedding. You are preparing yourselves to give good example for your child. *
I have not been to Church in about a year, but I have been baptized and received all sacraments. My husband has not been baptized under any religion. My original intention was to be married in Church. He said he wanted to take RCIA classes, but his work schedule conflicted with those classes at the Church I want to get married at. There is another parish closer to our home that offers the classes on a day he would be able to attend (beginning in September/October).
Because our JOP wedding only had my in-laws, a brother, and a friend, we were hoping to have a large group of family/friends and a reception after our marriage would be convalidated. Because of the statement on their website, I feel that they frown upon this practice (of a “big wedding” convalidation). Is this something that is not practiced? Do you think they would convalidate our marriage?
I’m just nervous about meeting with a priest about having our marriage convalidated. I’m scared we will get denied and that our marriage won’t be recognized in the eyes of God. I’ve heard mixed opinions online, and it makes me even more anxious to meet with someone. I will call, I promise, but I wanted to hear what everyone thinks. I’m sorry for the lengthy post, but I thought having details would help.