My husband and I were married outside the church for a variety of reasons. We have been married almost 4 years and trying to have our marriage convalidated but severe illness of children and his military deployments have been preventing our convalidation happening in a timely manner. We finally have a date set. We were hoping for a small intimate gathering (as we already had the big legal everyone could attend before his deployment). I have read protocols for hand written invites instead of big formal ones and also attire not being white or too dressy. The difficulty we keep running into is the size of our family. Even with just inviting immediate family we are at 30 people!
Is there a protocol for inviting out of town family? I guess my question is I don’t want people who are out of town to feel obligated to have the expense of making the trip (also his family is not Catholic).