Hi everyone, I am new here and decided to sign up because I really need some advice. My husband and I were both baptized Catholic. We have been married just over 2 years, and we were married outside the Church by a non-denominational Christian minister. I am coming back into the Church after a very long absence and was very sad when I found out I could not receive communion because I am in an “irregular marriage.” When I told my husband this, he said he would do whatever it takes in order for us to be "re"married in the Church. He is not very into the “Catholic thing” (but is obviously very supportive of me) and has no real desire to come back into the faith at this time.
So I asked the lady at my parish about how we would go about it. I had asked my priest awhile back and he actually said “oh, that’s easy, I can do that for you anytime.” I also read this article posted on my Archdiocese website that sounds like it just takes some paperwork. But she is telling us we need to go through all the prenuptial arrangements as if we were getting married from the start. I guess my real hang up here is my husband. While he wants to do what will make me happy, I feel guilty about pushing him into something that he has no interest in and will most likely resent (either the Church, or me, or both). I just want to be able to receive communion again.
In an effort to be completely honest, I also feel a little bit of resentment here. I mean, if I understand it correctly, when two Protestants get married outside the Church and come into the faith, they automatically have a Sacramental Marriage. And while I understand that “we knowingly did something wrong,” I wasn’t married by a Justice of the Peace. It was an ordained minister who said the right words and everything (we had a service with Catholic vows). This is the kind of archaic annoyance that kept me away from the Church for so long. I want my marriage (which is a very good, stable marriage) to be seen as valid, I wand my husband not to resent me or the Catholic Church, and I want to be able to grow in my faith and receive communion while doing it (I feel like it would be stunted if I couldn’t).
Is there an easier way??