Hi. I am new to these forums so please bear with me. My DH and I will be married 10 years this fall. We were not married in church, but we are both baptized/confirmed Catholics. The only reason we didn’t do the church thing was because we didn’t “want a big wedding.” We would like to have our marriage convalidated, however, we’re both a bit apprehensive about it. I think my biggest fear is disappointing our pastor when he finds out we weren’t married in church. We recently became parishioners at my DH’s childhood church and absolutely adore the pastor. I’m also a little freaked out about everything else - not being able to receive Communion, the fact that we’re “living in sin”, etc. It’s a bit overwhelming, but I really want to do this. My DH does too, but I think he’s kind of freaked out too. We’re procrastinating making an appt with the pastor because we both feel like he’s going to be disappointed. DH is always pushing me to talk to him either after mass or in the office, but I feel like this is something we should have a sit down about, not just a by the way kind of conversation. Would you agree?
I guess I’m just trying to calm my fears and realize that I’m not the only one going through this. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!