I'm at the beginning of my conversion journey so please excuse my naivety and know that I am sincerely looking for enlightenment.
I understand and accept the reasons that utilizing birth control is a sin I'm about confused about why condoms and pulling out are. Most importantly though is my underlying fear of failure of the NFP method. My husband and I have a 7 months old daughter, and while we can and do provide her with a good life at this point we couldn't do so for any additional children.
Even more concerning to me is that despite earning a respectable salary following graduation it is likely that I will be working strenuous hours for several years as I intend to become an attorney. I can't imagine being able to provide more than one child the care and attention necessary to ensure they receive a good Catholic education and plenty of time with their parents while maintaining a career.
I do not want to be resistant to the word of God, but I am so concerned with this. Is the only solution to abstain completely from sex? While my husband is supportive of my decision to join the church and even to raise our child(ren) Catholic he himself is not interested if finding any real faith (although I plan to work on this with him) and I'm nearly sure that if I told him we could no longer be physically intimate he would eventually leave me or at least grow to hate me.