+It is not “judging” an individual when suspect activities that are clearly sinful . . . in this case involving the open flaunting of the sin of fornication . . . are involved. Our lives as Christian Catholics are not our own . . . but the LORD’S . . . and whatever we do . . . it should be done heartily to the LORD with our love for God and desire to please him our first priority . . . and concern for the immortal souls of those around us our second priority . . .
Pondering on the . . . *very human *. . . subject question of this thread . . . I am reminded of the beautiful portion of Scriptural guidance below . . .
[INDENT]:bible1::“And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy **heart *, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the First Commandment. And the Second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other Commandment greater than these.” * - Matthew 12:30-31[/INDENT]
Doctrinely based upon the foundation of the above portion of Sacred :bible1: Scripture . . . as Catholic Christians we are taught that there are three kinds of love imparted to the soul of man by God our Gracious Heavenly Father. . . Who is wholly holy Love Himself and mankind was created in His image . . . *able to love perfectly *. . . before the free will falling from grace through the deliberate transgression (sin) of Adam which cast all of mankind into disordered relationships with both God and spouses and all our fellow men, and the harmony of man’s life in relation to love in all its aspects was tragically destroyed and perverted and cast into grave disorder and the sinful self . . . of man . . . became the center of mankind’s disordered distorted love relationships . . . rather than centering on our LORD and His purpose as the source of life & health, through the true nature and harmony of genuine holy love in all its three (3) aspects.
[INDENT]Doctrinal Teaching on Love:
**** Agape - God’s infinite love for mankind and man’s reciprocal love (which falls under the First Commandment as related above) and
Philial - love of one’s fellow-man/neighbor and
Eros - intimate love exclusively created for relationship between man and woman as spouses** within marriage** . . .
*(both of last fall in the category of the **Second Commandment ***as related above) . . . [/INDENT]
The marvelous God fearing :nun1: Benedictine nuns :nun2: in the European convent . . . through whom **He **graced my soul with a portion of my education . . . have a discipline they both practiced and which was well taught called the . . . Holy Discipline of Detachment . . . Essentially it is that genuine love is a CHOICE . . . not just emotion . . . which emotion can carry us away is all kinds of “not marvelous” directions if not disciplined by God’s Love with caution and reason.
One is to discipline and detach ones **heart ** and emotions from anything . . . *people, places and/or things *. . . that might take precedence over our heart’s first love. . . which should always be God and His Ways . . . and if one’s **first love **IS God . . . *and one’s soul endeavors to stay in prayerful constant communion with **Him ***. . . then healthy well-ordered love for one’s mate/children/fellow man/neighbor, etc. . . . can . . . and will . . . flow and follow . . . *in a wonderfully blest holy orderly fashion *. . . and as the Reverend Mother Emmanuel encouraged all her nuns:
“Leave a little leeway for the graces.
It’s a never-ending affair trying to be good
but never forget
when God orders,
[RIGHT]. . . all for Jesus+
. . . thank You Blessed Lord+
. . . thank you Blessed Virgin Mary+