Our neighbors house burned down a week ago. Everyone got out fine. There were 3 boys who lived there, 2 of whom my kids played with multiple times a week. My kids saw the whole ordeal because we were evacuated from our house at 130am by the police until the fire was under control. Ever since, my son (8) has been very emotional, saying things like he has no more friends (since the boys obviously dont live there anymore), being very angry or crying, shows no interest in anything anymore, continusly asks questions about whats going to happen regarding the house and the family, etc. He says the house is scary. I think maybe he is scared our house will burn down. To add to this mess, his little brother (7 months)whom my son adores was suddenly the following day rushed to the hospital while he was in school because he (long scary story short) ended up with meningitis. That also upset my son. The baby is home recovering. He has asked his dad to lay in his room every night since weve been home from the hospital.
Im concerned for my 8 year old sons mental health really. We are trying to be sensitive to his emotions right now and trying to answer all his questions as best we can and reassuring him that he is still friends with those boys and as soon as they are settled into a place to live (theyre still in a hotel) we will have them over to play. At what point should i consider finding someone for him to talk to? Maybe just have him and his dad go out fishing or something just to talk things through away from all the hubbub of our house for now? I know we shouls give this time but How long would you let him feel down in the dumps before you decided he needed maybe a counselor to talk to? Its going to be hard to not be reminded of this since the burned house is 10 feet away from our own amd is going to be there for a while as is.