I would love to hear the people who support government takeover of health care defend this.
I have friends who have been married “only” 53 years who have a similar situation. The wife is in a private Catholic nursing home with Alzheimer’s while her husband still lives independently only 3 miles away, and visits his wife every day. Her husband has a place reserved at the same home if he is unable to live alone.
Before she needed to be in a nursing home “Jane” (not her real name) sang in our choir with me for 30 years. The last couple of years she needed to be driven to Mass and choir practice. She did not learn new music but could sing all the old hymns she already knew. Whoever sat next to her helped her find the right page in her folder, even if that happened to be young person who did not know her. Her prayers were just as valuable as those of any other person in our choir. That continuation of her familiar routine was also beneficial to her.
You will never find a government agency that cares for people as much as family and friends.