I just read an article that stated if a couple wants to save their marriage, they should first "value their marriage". Then from there, they should work on their issues with love that stems from "valuing their marriage". This article said that often marriage counselling is ineffective b/c the couple AND the counsellor don't value marriage.
This article went on to say that instead of marriage counselling, things like Retrouvaille and marriage encounter weekends are much more successful b/c they teach the couple to "value their marriage". The article even said that success rates of weekend retreats are 75% compared to a much lower percentage rate for marriage counselling. It also stated that 38% of couples report the marriage being worse after counselling.
The article even stated that many marriage counsellors are not qualified and many of them are also divorced themselves and they do not value marriage. So if a counsellor does not value marriage, then how can they really help the couple learn to "value their marriage".
It was extremely interesting!! I've never looked at it from this angle before.
I would really like some comments from people who have had experiences in their marriage.