My cousin is in a rocky marriage - one which may come to an end. Nevertheless, they remain married. A careless facebook posting may have done him in with the rest of the clan.
My sister and I were shocked, though not necessarily surprised that he may have been in a relationship with someone else. We also laughed (as siblings can sometimes) over something sophomoric as the "other woman's" name.
I mentioned this to my wife, who immediately reacted by strongly saying that "it's not funny." I tried explaining the context and, of course, it spiraled into a vehement argument. She argued that I had to tell his wife about this, or at least confront him with it - that if he didn't come clean, then it would be up to me to tell the wife. She also somehow decided that the other woman is a prostitute based on an idiotic Facebook group she's a member of (something like "hooter's girls being pimped"). I wasn't quite sure if it was really my place to say anything to the wife, especially since I don't have the first clue as to what's really happening. Plus, a large part of me thinks that this is really none of my business and that it is a path they must find themselves.
Our argument ended when my wife said: "And you're supposed to be teaching morals to our son?"
I haven't spoken/seen my cousin in over a year because he lives very far away. In spite of that, I feel that we are close and - even if we don't speak for years - we just pick up where we leave off. I like to think that he trusts me.
The questions are:
1. Do I say something to his wife? Priests don't spill the beans though I acknowledge that I'm not a priest, nor necessarily close to being one. My cousin has previously spoken to me
2. Am I immoral for thinking that perhaps I should stay out of it?
I've sent my cousin a message asking him pointedly about it - though he's notoriously bad at answering emails and I may never get an answer. Calling would be too hard because of time zones and a lack of privacy/discretion here at home.