Does anyone else cringe when a Catholic asks you how many kids you want? Or when a Catholic says we want X number of kids? Isn’t this in a way sort of a scandalous question or comment?
Isn’t the word “want” irrelevant to the question of the number of kids a couple might have?
I remember when before I got married the parish gave me a questionnaire that asked how many kids I want when I get married? Like I was going to have some kind of choice in the matter assuming regular relations.
I think the question for pre-marriage prep should be: what types of reasons do you and your fiancee believe would be just reasons for avoiding children. I don’t know as asking a Catholic how many they want or a Catholic saying how many they want (unless they are saying an impossible number like 40) would ever be appropriate.