I am hoping to find some advice on here. I am really struggling with my current relationship. My boyfriend, who I love completely, and I were both raised Catholic, and he attended Catholic school his whole life, even through college. His whole life he was very involved with his parish, and was active in youth groups and in college, he ran his Newman Center. I have lived a similar life, and was so happy to meet him after college because we had such similar upbringings, and have so much in common.
We are very much in love, and I feel that we each have a lot to give the other. This feels like a very healthy,loving, thoughtful, generous relationship.We have begun to talk about a future together.
The problem is is that I think he is going through a crisis in faith. He has fallen away from the Church since after college and says he is not sure what he believes anymore. He only goes to church with me every once in a while. This, as you can imagine, is devastating to me, and I am at a loss because I feel totally on fire for Christ and I love the Catholic Church. I try my hardest to encourage him in his faith, to talk about his feelings and communicate with him about what he is struggling with, and he does talk about things to a degree, but he is shy and doesn’t feel comfortable discussing every point. I pray for him all the time and talk about God’s love all the time. I have even initiated a God journal, where we write our thoughts on God and pass the journal back and forth to each other. He agreed to take a personal retreat with me, where we each individually spent the weekend reading spiritual texts and reflecting. He says that I am the first thing in 4 years that has helped him to see the Church in a new light, but he is still not committed to the Church and God like he used to be.
I am not sure what I can do for him, but I would really like to help him with this. I have heard of people taking “vacations from God” so to speak, where young adults often drift away from the Church for a bit, and then eventually come back. I have never experienced this, and have always enjoyed a very personal relationship with God and my faith. I would love to marry him one day and raise a family together if it is God’s will ( he is very supportive of waiting for sex until marriage, NFP, and we have the same moral codes for marriage and family), but I worry that if he doesn’t get him out of his spiritual funk before we get married, then we will not be able to enjoy the intimacy of a true marriage in Christ. I truly love him, and see him as the most Christ-like man I have ever dated, even more so than the very strong Catholics that I dated. I have never met anyone as thoughtful, patient, loving, non-jealous, supportive and kind. I would like to help him more to come back to Christ and the Church. What can or should I do? Any advice you have is greatly appreciated, as I do not have anyone else to talk to about this.
Blessings of His love.