So here goes...
Every Sunday I go to church (an Anglo-catholic one). I have a 6 yr. old that behaves very well besides the wiggling once in a while. My 9 mo. old is very well behaved too but when she gets cranky (starts to make little cranky noises) I immediately take her to the cry room to rock her to sleep so we can return to the service.
My problem is there is an 9 year old child that is in there "playing" and such. She is not disabled in anyway but tells her mother that she's "sick" and needs to go to the cry room to sit. (I don't understand how you feel less sick in the cry room than in the pew sitting) anyway it used to just be after the communion just before church was over now it's through the whole service and she comes out for her blessing (Anglicans don't give communion to most kids until they are 14) then she returns to the cry room and her playing. After church she runs and plays with my daughter and the other kids no problem.
She's not a "bad" child just not interested in church obviously. Her younger sister age 7 sits quietly with their mother and their son age 6 is the boat boy who sits quietly up at the altar. I think the mom just doesn't want to deal with the problem and feels that if she forces her to sit there that she'll "hate church".
It's annoying for me to see children out of control (really she is-just not the screaming and running point) and see them in the cry room playing while I'm trying in vain to get my whiny baby to sleep while there is another child playing in there. (she's not loud by any means just distracting to the baby) I don't know what to say to the mom, we've had a recent argument about abortion and haven't spoken for like 3 weeks until last week so I'm not sure how to go about this. (I'm pro-life and she took the side of a pro-abort) The dad of the little girl is an altar server too like my husband and he came from an Evangelical home where he was forced to pray and such...
I know that talking to the priest would be useless because I've complained to him before about another guy who brings his 4 and 5 year olds to the cry room and leaves them while he sits in the pew. (they are loud and obnoxious and waaaaaaay out of control). The priest told me it's sensitive and that he doesn't want to "scare anyone off". It's a dying parish with my kids, and two other families with kids (the ones I mentioned). Lots of old people.
Anyway any recommendations would be appreciated,