I have read many posts regarding dating/marrying a non-Catholic, and it does seem that is a lot of work. Most say to not pursue it, and just find someone that shares your faith. I would hope that there are stories out there of couples who did make it work!
I am a cradle Catholic, I attend mass every week. I love my church and am comfortable in my faith. At the same time, I respect all people and their beliefs. My boyfriend is Lutheran, but is not as involved in his church. He is a good man, he believes in God, he treats me well, and I know he would make a great husband and father.
We are still in the early stages in our relationship, but the religion discussion recently came up and we are faced with our first real conflict. He is totally against Catholicism for him and our future children. He says that there have been several incidents in the past involving his family and their significant others (who are Catholic) that caused problems. He would be more comfortable in raising them in a different Christian (but Protestant) faith, if not Lutheran or Catholic. I personally think that he has been somewhat brainwashed into being anti-Catholic. :/ He keeps saying how his mother has told him stories and what not. I suggested to him that he should be open-minded and not shut out Catholicism as an option, just as I am being open to learning about his Lutheran faith.
I know that as a Catholic, it is my obligation to raise my children Catholic. Is it possible to raise children sharing two different faiths? I see no problem in them being exposed to both Lutheran and Catholic, but my boyfriend just does not want anything to do with Catholic church. I wish there was something I could do to make him see that all these horrible stories he's heard about the Church is not all it has to offer. It's not like I'm forcing him to be Catholic either, I just want him to accept that I would want our future children to be baptized and attend mass with me in the Catholic church.
Besides the conflict on religion, we get along really well and agree on pretty much everything else. He's a great guy, and I certainly want it to work out. I just really want for him to meet me halfway.
Do any of you feel that there is a compromise that could be work out in this situation? Is it possible for families of two different faiths come together and not have one faith dominate the other?
Thank you in advance for the insight!