Hey guys, I just joined today because I’d like a religious outlook on my relationship. I’ve been with this girl I’m dating now for a little over 1.5 years, with a 2 month break around this past Christmas. I was raised Catholic and recently decided to pursue an advanced degree in Catholic Theology upon graduation next year. I am happy with my current (and first) girlfriend. However, I feel a bit of a disconnect when it comes to religion. She is a presbyterian, but is generally open to Catholicism (not sure about conversion). When saying who I should look for in a wife, my father, who is joining a seminary now after my parents got an annulment, always had “Catholic” as a top priority in my future spouse. I have come to agree with this idea.
This may be ordinary (I’m not sure since I’ve only had one girlfriend) but I find myself looking for something better than what I currently have. For instance, there is one girl I know who is a theology major also on campus. She is extremely pretty, she is a very nice girl, and has excellent morals and faith. She is the type of girl I have always seen myself looking for in a potential wife. I’m not sure I could say the same about my current girlfriend. In one year, we both will graduate, and we will probably part ways. But I’m not sure if I should stay with her even until then. We live on a small campus, so that further complicates things.
My girlfriend and I have not been sexually active (but have done some less-sexual things). We stopped all of that recently because I decided to remove myself from that sin. She seems to be more free sexually than I would like her to be. I would rather date someone who is more conservative and religious when it comes to sexuality.
- current girlfriend is presbyterian
- been together 1.5 years (minus this past XMAS)
- I’d much rather date/marry catholic
- we stopped doing ‘sexual things’ recently
- don’t see the relationship lasting past graduation
Should I keep it together? I don’t want to hurt her again (after this past short breakup). What about the other girl I mentioned? Also, do you guys think its possible for the current girlfriend and I to avoid sexual activity, despite having limited experience before?
I apologize if my sexual references are ‘explicit.’ Please let me know if I should remove them. I think it adds to the story though, as that is a big part of the debate in my head.
Also, is this the right place for this topic???