[quote="Sierrah, post:16, topic:205366"]
I've found Catholic guys to be the same as non catholic guys. It's finding someone that puts Christ first instead of the secular world and it's values....now that's the hard part. I'm sure this problem is the same for the guys as well.
Bing bing bing! Winner winner chicken dinner. For hot (instead of luke-warm :D) Catholics, finding someone single and like this = near impossible anyway, but add to that personal circumstances and you've got yourself a pretty non-existent selection. All things possible through God though :)
What I find personally most hard to find is someone who values Catholic/Christian morality/values/lifestyle/thinking over the secular. Nobody out there I have come across is like that. I know 1 other guy in my situation. 1. In all my years and in all 3 countries ive lived in in the past few years. Even my "religious" friends laugh at the idea of waiting for marriage, abortion being evil, modesty, not getting drunk, etc. It just aint fashionable to be a Catholic. Sad part is that I suspect most people bend to the will of the world so that they can find someone. Because hey, we are all so unsatisfied, so lonely with ourselves, so frightened of existing that we neeeeeeed someone else and we neeeeed to feel 'loved' ya know... I know I did it. And I regretted it. It's so true, we can't have two masters. Either you bend your knee at the alter of the World (and enjoy the quick, probably sinful delights) or the Altar of our Lord (and have patience, and delight in Jesus). My daddy told me from a young age, "Boy, the world is gonna call you, and the Lord is gonna call you, and you only have one ear to listen". A bit of a tangent but anyway.
Here is a quote from a Priest, I recently read it, and it explains what I am trying to say in a way (its a great quote) :D
"Sometimes it seems as if we do everything possible to avoid the painful confrontation with our basic human loneliness, and allow ourselves to be trapped by false gods promising immediate satisfaction and quick relief. But perhaps the painful awareness of loneliness is an invitation to transcend our limitations and look beyond the boundaries of our existence. The awareness of loneliness might be a gift we must protect and guard, because our loneliness reveals to us an inner emptiness that can be destructive when misunderstood, but filled with promise for him who can tolerate its sweet pain… We easily relate to our human world with devastating expectations. We ignore what we already know… that no love or friendship, no intimate embrace or tender kiss, no community, commune or collective, no man or woman, will ever be able to satisfy our desire to be released from our lonely condition. This truth is so disconcerting and painful that we are more prone to play games with our fantasies than to face the truth of our existence." Fr Henri Nouwen