There's probably a thread on this somewhere, but I couldn't find it.
I met a very nice Catholic girl this summer while I was working on an internship in another city. Now, it's time to go back home, and I need to figure out whether or not I should continue the relationship.
We have a lot in common (professionally, hobbies, attitudes). I happened across some recent pictures of an ex-girlfriend on Facebook a week ago, and it made me realize that one thing I've appreciated about this new girl is that she manages the modesty and purity issues quite well (dresses quite well, doesn't cross any limits when we're alone). One thing we don't have in common, however, is our understanding of our Catholic faith. I am your basic orthodox Catholic who accepts Church teaching. She is the daughter of an ex-nun and doesn't accept Catholic teaching on women priests or contraception. She's pretty close to her mother, so I suspect the emotional attachment alone means there won't be an immediate change on these issues, if ever. We've talked about this a bit; she definitely wants children and hasn't even set any limits. I am worried, however, that when it comes time to raise kids in the Church, we will have some problems. If we can't agree on what the Church is, will we just find that we're having endless arguments about what to tell the kids?
As I've hinted, I've had uncomfortable experiences with some orthodox Catholic women I've dated. They've checked the right doctrinal boxes, but it doesn't seem to translate into practice. I'm very tempted to try the long distance relationship, but what am I missing? I've known couples where everything seems fine but then contraception and deciding when to have kids really creates problems. How workable is this issue?