This may sound really stupid, but I’m clueless as to this point. I’ve never dated before, and part of me wonders if my deafness may have–not exactly “scared”–the guys away. Can anybody give me any tips on dating? See, the thing is, there’s this guy I like. (he’s Catholic). And we’re both in the same organization at my university (student government).
The first two times I met him I could hear and understand him! (I’m profoundly deaf). And he seemed to like me, by his actions (he walked me to my car, got me a pop, we had good conversations etc). But at the leadership conference, well, he sat next to me, and tried to talk to me, and I wanted to talk to him, but music was playing in the background, and that made it really hard for me to understand him, so we ended up not talking much
I don’t know how to go about telling people that they need to speak up, and if I don’t respond (or “fake it” with non-committal utterances like, “yeah!” ) that doesn’t mean I don’t like them. How do I tell them, let’s talk later when I can hear?’ I don’t want to hurt his feelings, or scare him off, you know?
It’s kind of a complicated question, I know. I already know to take things slow, no pressure, etc. But how do I listen without making it seem like I don’t care? (Or care too much–I have to look at his face all the time to read his lips, and that may appear too needy
I will keep my mind open every time we’re at the same function/meeting. If it doesn’t develop, then fine, but if it does, then great! But he’s really nice, and it turns out his parish’s old priest who was transferred out was my parish’s new priest