After 10 months of dating a Protestant man, our college daughter announced that she has decided to convert from Catholicism to Protestantism. John is a very nice, intelligent and driven man who is very strong & steadfast in his Protestant faith. She knew this about him going into the relationship and we had some discussions on the differences in the beginning. They both decided not to focus on the differences and read the bible together and see how they can apply Jesus’ teachings in their lives and their relationship. Long story short, the reasons she gave us for turning away from our faith was the usual, misunderstood, misguided anti-Catholic rhetorics. She says the bible does not say we should be praying to Mary, that we are idol worshipers, that she doesn’t believe the Eucharist is the Body & Blood of Christ etc.
Some background on our family, although my husband and I were brought up as “practicing” Catholics, we just recently in the past 4 years, woke up and have embraced/studied about our faith. The Holy Spirit had no doubt been working on us and we’ve been on fire about our faith and can’t get enough of it. So my D, unfortunately, had no real, strong Catholic foundation when she went off to college. She’s always had a very compassionate and spiritual side of her. And I’m afraid John’s Protestant faith touched her heart before we could. She reads the bible every morning and night, has a prayer journal and genuinely feels like the Holy Spirit has led her to the Protestant faith.
So needless to say, I feel like I’m losing a daughter. It’s been a month since she made her announcement and I feel like a grieving mother. I feel like I’ve failed my D. She still attends mass with us but will not take the Eucharist…which pains me like no other. I am so resentful of John who I trusted would respect our faith and not influence her. She is graduating this spring and I can’t even find joy in that.
My husband feels the same way although he is more focused now then ever to study our faith and read up on apologetics so he can be prepared to defend our faith.
Any advice & prayers from this forum is GREATLY appreciated. I have younger kids and I feel so paralyzed about this recent event that I feel that I’m neglecting them as well.