her partner didn’t want to drive her to our place for the holiday dinner:mad: and am i disappointed? yes iam:mad: i had asked her to come a month in advance, and i also reminded her a week ago. so what did they do? they went to her partners place for thanksgiving dinner on sunday, and on monday, when the actual holiday was, my daughter tells me she was out all day with her girlfriend, and that they didn’t feel like coming up.:mad: my daughter promised she was going to come. so i asked her to ask her partner if she would drive my daughter to my house for thanksgiving, and my daughter told me, mom, if i show up then she agreed to take me. so, we waited and waited, and it was a no show:mad:
this is not the first time this has happened to me either. every christmas, my daughter spends the day with her partner and her partners family. she comes to see me on the 24rth. well, i want her to come on the 25th, and she has known this for years. yet she would rather spend it with her partner and their family then wth her ailing mother and her step dad who love her dearly.
we have a great relationship, we really do. but she lets her partner dictate to her where they can go and where not. i have been nothing but civil to her partner and polite and nice. she could have driven my daughter to see me for a few hours!! but nooooooo… she didn’t feel like it. was i mad? yes!of course i was mad! this happens all the time, and frankly, iam tired of it. i have NEVER shoved my morals in her face about the gay lifestyle. she knows my stance on it. i do not condone it and she knows it. her partner has always been nice to me, but lately, iam wondering what this girl teaches my daughter! iam not happy they are in a relationship,
i feel like my daughter is being led around by her nose. and that ticks me off… every holiday, i always get some stupid excuse as to why she cannot come and visit. and when my daughter does visit, well, its usually by herself thank God, and its also sparingly.
its not because of my religious convictions either. its because her partner runs her life. i just have about had it. yesterday was the last straw. i will ask my daughter flat out, but lovingly and charitably why she does this to me. i deserve a straight up answer. and i will get one. my daughter is quite blunt. if i hear excuses, all iam going to tell her is well, i guess that is that then.
oh well. it means i wont ask her again. i wont invite her to my home again. she has done this to me too many times to count. iam tired of it.
i have never been uncharitable or in your face type mom. but this time, iam just going to flat out ask her why she is doing this to me. i deserve an answer and i want one. any advice? i went and cooked up this fabulous dinner and she didn’t even bother to come. do you know how hurt i feel? its not just the dinner, but it was the family time we were to spend together! i was excited all day that she was going to come over! i spent all day cooking and cleaning, and a no show! :mad: